Saturday, November 14, 2015

all is great, but nothing is perfect

The past few months have been a total whirlwind of emotions. We are officially moved in and settled down into our home in Cleveland and couldn’t be happier. The process of moving and accepting a new normal is never easy and as much as I wanted to move home to Cleveland, I had a harder transition then I thought I would. Saying goodbye to the city and the people we had met along our journey was heartbreaking, but in the end I know we left with family that we will remain close to for years to come. As far as being homeowners in Cleveland, it has been everything we dreamed it would be. We settled right back where we left off in Cleveland and have been enjoying everything it has to offer, including our cavs season tickets! Moving was honestly the worst thing ever and I don’t think I want to do it again for a very long time. Having a place that is ours to decorate and use however we want is an amazing feeling, but is also totally exhausting. For several weeks I ate, slept, and breathed unpacking. Things have finally calmed down and we are able to sit back and enjoy all the time, energy, sacrifice, and hard work it took to get us to the place we are now.

We’ve both been working our new jobs for a little over a month now and are so incredibly happy where we are. The transitions were pretty major, but we both seemed to adapt well. River went from a midsize accounting firm in manhattan to a single man CPA practice in Cleveland. He joined Charles Den Heijer CPA, where he is working alongside Charlie running the company and doing some VERY exciting tax work. He is slowly and enjoyably learning to be his own boss. I on the other hand went from being a nanny for two families to working for a global company. Holy transition. I joined the Hyland Software staff in Westlake, Ohio where I became an infant teacher at the child enrichment center (CEC). I am so incredibly in love with this company, my co-teachers, the families, and of course, the 12 goofy babies I get to see everyday. Its such night and day compared to what I was doing before, but it is such a great fit for me.

Crohns wise I am doing very well. I had some nerves about potentially having a flare during this move because of all the stress, but my body handled it very well and everything went smoothly. Saying goodbye to my teams of doctors in New York wasn’t easy, but I am slowly re-establishing relationships with my doctors in Cleveland to make sure everything stays on track where it needs to be..

All is great, but nothing is ever perfect. Life is a game of balance and sacrifice, and we all know that we cant always get what we want. As happy and blessed as we are in Cleveland, we’ve also been dealing with some loss and hard times. We have wanted to have a family for as long as we’ve known each other and we understood that with my surgery last year that was going to become much more difficult. A year later I sit here healthier than I could have ever imagined and so happy for that, but aching for the one thing I don’t have; kids. Its been a really personal struggle that we haven’t been able to talk about much, but we’ve recently learned that despite trying, we really aren’t going to be able to naturally conceive. It was a very tough dose of reality to swallow, but I understand that life has balances and I sacrificed this in order to be healthy, something that I will never regret. River and I will have a family, we just now know that it will not be how we hoped it would. Were starting to explore our options, and I will share them with you when I am ready to talk about it.  

For now, we are ecstatic to be exactly where we are in this moment and are looking forward to our first holidays in our new home. Well never forget what it took to get where we are.

Love and hugs,

C